So now that it was clear that we had reached the right time professionally and personally, we had to get down to the brass tacks. Who do we get in touch with? How do we do this? What is needed? There in came lots of hours of homework and personally looking out for people who had adopted themselves.
Unfortunatly there is no single place to network with adoptive parents, so we did it the best way we can in India. By telling our close friends of our plans and using them to find out some adoptive parents. Also, internet is a great place to start your search. CARA has a great website with all information http://www.adoptionindia.nic.in/ as well list of adoptive agencies in your area you can register with.
But then you hear of horror stories about some adoption agency and then you get worried about registering at the right one. Most adoptive parents have lots of positives to share about the adoptive child and also lots of negatives about the process itself.
When you finally do get a list of documents required, it is daunting...make no mistakes about it. You will need to find exclusive time to devote in getting all in order exactly as the agency wants it. But I have noticed that as I worked on the list, I felt more and more close to the whole idea of bring a child home.
Biologocal parents have nine months to get used to the idea of bringing home a baby. For adoptive parents (especially if you don't have a child of your own) it is the process of getting the paper work done which brings home this reality of empending parenthood. Also, for my husband and me this process gave us opportunities to talk about things which were important to us about bringing up children. things you would normally not discuss. But more on that later.
We finally decided on an agency which is overlooked by a TRUST which is run by one of my husband's friend. This gave us an advantage of knowing that the agency will work for our benefit as much as for the child's. They will understand our situation and needs as much as they care about placing children with right parents. They had their application forms and all listed documents available on their webiste as well. Since this agency is about 7 hours drive from our house it was important to us that they be technoligically savvy. They enrolled us and took us through the paper work requirements all over again on the phone. We met with their agency incharge when he was in our city and established a personal rapport with him.
Then we made a file of all required paperwork and kept it in a corner of our house.....overlooked.
Unfortunatly there is no single place to network with adoptive parents, so we did it the best way we can in India. By telling our close friends of our plans and using them to find out some adoptive parents. Also, internet is a great place to start your search. CARA has a great website with all information http://www.adoptionindia.nic.in/ as well list of adoptive agencies in your area you can register with.
But then you hear of horror stories about some adoption agency and then you get worried about registering at the right one. Most adoptive parents have lots of positives to share about the adoptive child and also lots of negatives about the process itself.
When you finally do get a list of documents required, it is daunting...make no mistakes about it. You will need to find exclusive time to devote in getting all in order exactly as the agency wants it. But I have noticed that as I worked on the list, I felt more and more close to the whole idea of bring a child home.
Biologocal parents have nine months to get used to the idea of bringing home a baby. For adoptive parents (especially if you don't have a child of your own) it is the process of getting the paper work done which brings home this reality of empending parenthood. Also, for my husband and me this process gave us opportunities to talk about things which were important to us about bringing up children. things you would normally not discuss. But more on that later.
We finally decided on an agency which is overlooked by a TRUST which is run by one of my husband's friend. This gave us an advantage of knowing that the agency will work for our benefit as much as for the child's. They will understand our situation and needs as much as they care about placing children with right parents. They had their application forms and all listed documents available on their webiste as well. Since this agency is about 7 hours drive from our house it was important to us that they be technoligically savvy. They enrolled us and took us through the paper work requirements all over again on the phone. We met with their agency incharge when he was in our city and established a personal rapport with him.
Then we made a file of all required paperwork and kept it in a corner of our house.....overlooked.
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